new years, the conclusion

i neglected to mention in my blog about k yesterday that she was inquiring about our new years and how it went.

she was on the banned list of invitees for some unknown reason.  both friend-not-friend and ross vetoed her and her husband.  at the time of list making, i asked them why they were banning them and altho i know that ross doesnt like k's husband, friend-not-friend really had no other response other than wanting to limit the drama.

davina and i were talking about these rules that constantly change, the way that people purposefully exclude others, and both of us have said numerous times how much we disagree with the practice of exclusion, especially now that we are all old enough to know better and to play nice.  then it was mentioned that people like d and i are often the targets of the excluded when they figure out that they didnt quite make the cut.  suddenly their wrath over it melts onto you, even tho you were not the one to support such list making.

k's final line in her email to me asked about new years.  and i know right now that she knows there was a list.  it was expressed to me that her husband was upset that they werent asked to come, even tho they were going to be out of the country.  in part, i know that hurt them. 

so right now it seems i'm on the hook for the decisions other people made and i'm on the shit list as if i'm the one who made the guest list.  and what i really want to do right now is tell her directly to talk to friend-not-friend and ross and let them answer the whys, not me.

yeah, i think this is the year for disclosure.  you're damned straight: i'm going to fucking say that if i'm ever asked about a guest list.  let THEM deal with their bullshit.

the problem is that friend-not-friend always has excuses on the fly, so if she was ever encountered and confronted, lies would spew forth. 

it's just amazing to me that others walk around pretending to be friends and telling lies to save face.

i think honesty is a dying quality.