family fuckery

had a message on the phone from ch's crazy aunt bernie on the farm. she calls here once in a while and i never answer it because if i do, you can never get away from the phone. talk-ta-talk-talk-talk. and if you happen to say "would you like to speak to ch?" she will snark at you and say "i wasnt calling to talk to him"....riiiiiight, 99.9999% of all calls from her are for him and messages always start with "hi ch".

long story short, she is about 50,000,000 fleas short of a circus.

so she called here sometime on monday and left 2 long winded messages for me. she is one of those very transparent people, so the messages were full of flattery and nonsense and bullshit. she was wanting me to look up digital cameras so that she could buy uncle jim one when he comes to canada. where she's going to get the money is beyond me, because she doesnt have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of. oh, maybe she does...it's just buried under 25+yrs of shit in that house she's living in. she's a classic hoarder and has every room in that farmhouse loaded to the nuts with junk and crap. you literally have a pathway to walk through a room, it's so bad. anyway she left 2 messages for me, going on about how she was sooooooo impressed how i found such cheap flights to vegas (uhm, have you ever heard of allegiantair.com??  ffs), so surely i must be able to find cheap digital cameras. i'm no stranger to the inlaws' bullshit, so i saw through and wanted her to cut the crap and come out and say what she wanted.


so then i figured it wouldnt hurt me to look and print off some stuff. all told, it maybe took me 15 minutes. i printed off 2 cameras i thought were ok, wrote her a letter telling her what to look for and ask for, put it into a package, and sent it off. fil took it today to the farm.  if you ask me, i went over and above what was asked of me. 

so at 2pm this afternoon, i got a snarky voice message from her saying that obviously i wasnt going to do it for her and she was going to ask someone else who would. the tone was snarky and ridiculous. i was immediately angry, as i had gone to the effort to write her and help her. stupid woman. obviously the fil has obviously forgotten to give the envelope to her.

i immediately called her to set her straight and basically tell her not to snark at me or ask ANYTHING of me in the future, but her line was busy. i called ch to ask if perchance he moved the envelope, but he said that the fil took it with him.

so that is bernie, who is a typical member of this particular familial genetic strain and i'm furious. i told ch that i wont do anything for her in the future, so she can forget it. their attitude is all the same: over the top flattery and kindness until they either get what they want or dont and then it's snarking and snapping and ridiculousness.

ch says she will feel like a heel for doing that to me when the fil remembers and gives her the envelope. i know that she will...at least i hope she does. i just dont want or need her apologies because they wont be sincere.

what's frustrating is that it's all typical family behaviour, right from her phony compliments to the snarking, to the fil being so self centred forgetting to give her the envelope. and i think what is even more angering is that i knew better than to do anything and in the end have only got anger out of it. (and stupid me, thinking that she had called to say the two words that are rarities in lexicons: "thank" and "You")

frustrating. however, i did my part. no, i didnt call her and tell her i'd do it; i just figured that i'd send the package along with the fil or ch...oh well. funny how she said that if i didnt want to do it, it was ok...somehow that was all bs too, because it's apparently NOT ok, based on her tone. so i'm sure while her phone was busy, she was on it complaining to whomever her next victim/slave is about how lazy i am etc...not that i care what an old hag says, but it's the principle. i'm tempted to write her a letter and tell her how it is, but then it's just ammo for her to show the family and say how rotten i am etc....so i will just leave it and be icy cool when i see her next. 3 short joyous weeks from now...

what i'm going to explain to ch is that i'm going to treat people the way they treat me.  it's only fair.  i'm mirroring how i'm treated.  and if bernie, or the sil, the fat useless sil, mil, or anyone else wants to treat me like shit, then that's their perogative.  hey, i'm an adult.  i can take it for the most part.  but when i treat them reciprocally, they'd better not question it and whine...it's the least they can expect.  if you're going to treat people like shit, dont be surprised if you end up eating some of it.