breakups and reasons

can a person really break up over something as trivial as food and music?

i wonder that.

here at my house we have a very different idea of what is "food".  ch loves anything i hate: red meat, pizza, grease.  dont get me wrong, i do like those things, but i recognize that they are not good for me, so i stay away from them and eat them sparingly.  if it were up to him, he'd eat steaks daily. 

his diet consists of beer, fast food, and red meat.  sometimes he will even go without eating breakfast or lunch.  i cant fathom that.  a breakfast is a must in my life.  i'd be a very hangry bear if i didnt eat.  get out of my way if i havent eaten breakfast or lunch.  hell, get out of my way if neither breakkie or lunch is healthy. 

ch likes mcdonald's.  i loathe the place.  i used to like it but there is something so fake and manufactured about everything they sell (including their marketed "healthy" "food") that turns my stomach.  mcdonald's food is like injesting a big plate of plastic and equally as unappetizing.  everyone loves the fries, but i cant help but smell pigs when i eat them, even tho they havent been cooked in animal fat for years.  there is some kind of smell that radiates off them that makes me gag.  i question the sanity of my husband when he tells me he's eaten there AND enjoyed it.

and then there's dinner options.  he hates eating chicken, pita pizzas and pasta with tomatoes on it.  i know that i'm not exactly a buffet here, but i can eat the same thing for weeks on end without complaint.  to not eat chicken is unfathomable.  i brought up the possibility of cooking pho tonight for dinner, and he looked at me as if i just said "hey, let's eat the dogs' shit tonight".  so much for that idea.

is it really up to me to cook two meals if my significant other hates what i make?

same with music...fuck, i hate his music.  it's all the old shit from the 60's and 70's.  i cant stand that crap.  does he know that there have been four decades since the beatles of good hits, too?  i'm not picking on the beatles, but there have been good songs since they wrote.  of course i'm not a music expert, but i tend to think that new music is ok.  listeanble even.  we disagree heartily on music selections.  road trips are hell for either of us when we plug in our ipods.  i roll my eyes and sigh when he wants to play name that tune with his old shit and his body language suggests he'd rather throw my ipod onto the freeway than listen to a lady gaga song.

what do you do when there are so many differences?  of course these are minor.  yes, there is monogamy and devotion here, and i dont necessarily think that we have to automatically love the same things just because we share a roof, but there are some days where i wonder how i can spend the next 50 years with someone who refuses to eat anything but mcdonald's, hamburger helper, and grease all while chowing it down to the who and bands who are far too old to tour and remember.