so my husband's cousin married a semi-famous person. ok, not his cousin, but his step cousin. prior to marrying this person, everyone in the family would refer to her as the step cousin, making it perfectly clear they were not related to her by blood.
a $100,000 wedding and an heir later, they are still married. it's probably been three years.
prior to this union, nobody cared about the step cousin. comments about her were made in passing, but generally people talked about other "related" people in the family.
once this girl married this guy, well...we've never heard the end of it and how wonderful it all is.
even her parents are charmed, making it a topic of conversation: "did you know that my daugher married _____?" everyone in the family does it as if this guy is a saint.
well, he aint.
he had a big problem with alcohol and cocaine. lost his job(s) because of it. married at least 2 women prior to the cousin and has had three children ranging in ages from 20-something to pre-teens.
he met this cousin in rehab.
hey, i'm all for second chances, but this guy's track record is anything but stellar.
if that was my daughter coming home, i'd be mortified. worried. concerned. i'd want her to really consider her future and wonder if history would repeat itself. she clearly had her share of problems but i think that most therapists agree that you shouldnt hook up with a fellow addict.
my husband's family had nothing to do with this girl when she was living in their city, before the famous dude. they saw her a total of one time to drop off an heirloom and never heard from her. we'd get grumbling from time to time about how they never saw her and how she never contacted them...nevermind that they'd been in that city their entire lives and she had moved there alone from out east. uh huh.
as soon as the news went out that she was marrying this person, well, tables turned. everyone in the family praised her, thought she was wonderful, that the union was spectacular and in the meantime i was wondering if i was the only person seeing it as it really was. i refused to be clouded by fame...he's a freaking addict! come on! if anyone had concern for this girl they surely put it to rest because of his status in their city.
all the family fell under this star power, too. my husband's brother and his wife ran into them at a home show and immediately came back with tall tales of how close they all were and that they'd invited them to a bbq at their house and they came. since then, there was a constant barrage of comments of "how close" the four of them were. these folks have a tendancy for telling tall tales about anything, so the believability factor was cut in 1/2. completely. what's hilarious is that my sister in law #2 is anything but glamourous and is clearly NOT in this cousin's social circle and never would be, but the way she told her side of the tale was as if the two were inseperable. please keep in mind that this sister in law never contacted the cousin prior to the marriage either when the cousin knew nobody in her city.
anytime i see my inlaws there is always discussion about this famous person and the last interaction they have had with him by direct contact or family gossip. any tale told is with great sweeping detail and pride. there's always reference to how they've had him, the cousin, and the baby over for dinner more than once.
so now the semi-famous person is having a retirement party and the entire family is a-buzz with excitement of going. sister in law #1 phoned my husband tonight and left the message about the party, stating that she'd go if we went. again, she had NOTHING to do with this step cousin when she herself lived in the same city, but now all of a sudden wants to go and rub shoulders, hoping to be spontaneously proposed to by other semi-famous individuals who may or may not be at this party?
all of it just borders on ridiculous if you ask me.
what happens when this marriage self destructs? how much bragging will go on then? i'd sure love to know. they'll dump this cousin and never talk to her again. gone will be the dinner invites, the name dropping in conversation, the pride. she will be the dirty little secret once again...
i can just imagine the fakery that this girl is surrounded by as well. so many people pretending to be her friend and clinging to her because of who she married. probably no real relationships in her life. i find that incredibly sad. while the rest of the family salivates over her marriage, i cant help but feel sorry for her. does she worry about infidelity? a return to old habits? being a notch on his belt? std's? perhaps she's really secure with her life choices, but you' have to wonder, considering his track record...
i dunno, in a world full of fakery and ass-fuckery, the last thing this girl needs is family members showing up expecting to rub shoulders with the elite, instead of going to support her.
if she married joe schmo from down the street, would anyone care enough to go to this function?
i think i know the answer.
so my husband's cousin married a semi-famous person. ok, not his cousin, but his step cousin. prior to marrying this person, everyone in the family would refer to her as the step cousin, making it perfectly clear they were not related to her by blood.
a $100,000 wedding and an heir later, they are still married. it's probably been three years.
prior to this union, nobody cared about the step cousin. comments about her were made in passing, but generally people talked about other "related" people in the family.
once this girl married this guy, well...we've never heard the end of it and how wonderful it all is.
even her parents are charmed, making it a topic of conversation: "did you know that my daugher married _____?" everyone in the family does it as if this guy is a saint.
well, he aint.
he had a big problem with alcohol and cocaine. lost his job(s) because of it. married at least 2 women prior to the cousin and has had three children ranging in ages from 20-something to pre-teens.
he met this cousin in rehab.
hey, i'm all for second chances, but this guy's track record is anything but stellar.
if that was my daughter coming home, i'd be mortified. worried. concerned. i'd want her to really consider her future and wonder if history would repeat itself. she clearly had her share of problems but i think that most therapists agree that you shouldnt hook up with a fellow addict.
my husband's family had nothing to do with this girl when she was living in their city, before the famous dude. they saw her a total of one time to drop off an heirloom and never heard from her. we'd get grumbling from time to time about how they never saw her and how she never contacted them...nevermind that they'd been in that city their entire lives and she had moved there alone from out east. uh huh.
as soon as the news went out that she was marrying this person, well, tables turned. everyone in the family praised her, thought she was wonderful, that the union was spectacular and in the meantime i was wondering if i was the only person seeing it as it really was. i refused to be clouded by fame...he's a freaking addict! come on! if anyone had concern for this girl they surely put it to rest because of his status in their city.
all the family fell under this star power, too. my husband's brother and his wife ran into them at a home show and immediately came back with tall tales of how close they all were and that they'd invited them to a bbq at their house and they came. since then, there was a constant barrage of comments of "how close" the four of them were. these folks have a tendancy for telling tall tales about anything, so the believability factor was cut in 1/2. completely. what's hilarious is that my sister in law #2 is anything but glamourous and is clearly NOT in this cousin's social circle and never would be, but the way she told her side of the tale was as if the two were inseperable. please keep in mind that this sister in law never contacted the cousin prior to the marriage either when the cousin knew nobody in her city.
anytime i see my inlaws there is always discussion about this famous person and the last interaction they have had with him by direct contact or family gossip. any tale told is with great sweeping detail and pride. there's always reference to how they've had him, the cousin, and the baby over for dinner more than once.
so now the semi-famous person is having a retirement party and the entire family is a-buzz with excitement of going. sister in law #1 phoned my husband tonight and left the message about the party, stating that she'd go if we went. again, she had NOTHING to do with this step cousin when she herself lived in the same city, but now all of a sudden wants to go and rub shoulders, hoping to be spontaneously proposed to by other semi-famous individuals who may or may not be at this party?
all of it just borders on ridiculous if you ask me.
what happens when this marriage self destructs? how much bragging will go on then? i'd sure love to know. they'll dump this cousin and never talk to her again. gone will be the dinner invites, the name dropping in conversation, the pride. she will be the dirty little secret once again...
i can just imagine the fakery that this girl is surrounded by as well. so many people pretending to be her friend and clinging to her because of who she married. probably no real relationships in her life. i find that incredibly sad. while the rest of the family salivates over her marriage, i cant help but feel sorry for her. does she worry about infidelity? a return to old habits? being a notch on his belt? std's? perhaps she's really secure with her life choices, but you' have to wonder, considering his track record...
i dunno, in a world full of fakery and ass-fuckery, the last thing this girl needs is family members showing up expecting to rub shoulders with the elite, instead of going to support her.
if she married joe schmo from down the street, would anyone care enough to go to this function?
i think i know the answer.
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