Ok i've stayed quiet long enough

but i think it's time you STFU.

seriously.

i dont like your attitude and i like it less as soon as you open your mouth.

asking me about my nephew is always a step towards you standing on a soap box prostheletizing on about how wonderful your blood nephew is, how much smarter, talented, special he is than my blood nephew.  ok, i SEE THROUGH IT.  you are trying to imply that my family's genes are weaker.  i get it.  but i dont like it.

in short, you are a bitch with no friends.  i dont think you have a real friend outside of your family, you know.  any "real" friends you have live far away and are likely glad they dont see you regularly.

i have tried to like you, oh god i have, but you have countlessly turned on me.  there's one thing you dont get or appreciate about me: i am sensitive and i usually give people the benefit of the doubt.  i can be loyal to the bitter end, but you have crossed me enough to let me know that it is merely wasting my time.

i dont appreciate asking you a simple benign question as to where you are getting your masters degree (because i seriously had NOT heard of gonzaga or knew of its geographic location), but you took it to be a huge insult on your character for some godforesaken reason, and turned on me like a cobra and told me that my education and university was known as a "last chance university, somewhere people applied to only if they couldnt get in elsewhere".  know what?  that's a blatant LIE.  and even better yet?  your fucking degree from your university means shit compared to getting it from mine.  ask any recruiter and they'll tell you they want U of L grads. 

while we were at your house, you took to insulting my nephew and then later insulting my husband for not answering his phone when you call.  let me get one thing clear with you: his phone is not the bat phone that you can call 24/7 when you want something.  and ya know what?  you usually want stupid things...like calling him to come kill a spider.  a spider who lived OUTSIDE of your stupid condo.  a spider that you had adequate bug spray to kill on your own.  but instead, you played the weak woman (a syndrome that gallops in your family) and had him come kill it.  can you BLAME him for screening your calls?

i also hate how you treat your parents.  oh you think you are the only one who cares about them, but in reality you treat them like your common slaves, telling them when and how high to jump.  you will demand they come on your schedule to do your bidding.  like the time you told your dad to come and help you build a work station in your garage.  he came for the weekend and you spent part of it visiting with them and lazing about until it was time to actually get to work in your cold garage and you got up and declared that you had homework to do, so you left your 60+yr old dad in the garage at 6pm on a november night to do it on his own.

i get that your parents are adults and that you are an adult, but i think that you all live in a dysfunctional system of denial.  a place where none of you accept each other as they truly are.  your parents refuse to see you as a grown up woman because to do so would deplete their usefulness in life, and you are more than ok to play into that role and have them coddle you, even tho you are past the age of a place where that is acceptable.

and you know what?  approaching your new position as the VP does not give you the power you think you deserve in life.  i have heard more than once that you are now "drunk with power" in your current position, which just tells me that the hiring committee was obviously too rash in making a decision.  it makes me think that they really had no candidates to choose from if you were the best choice.  that doesnt say much.  i highly doubt your predecessors walked about the halls saying the same unprofessional thing.  i feel pity for you because you clearly have not found a mentor to style yourself after.  i do believe you think you are the mold which all others were created.

oh, and while we are at it, your colleagues talk about you regularly and not in flattering ways either.  and the thing is, i know you care.  i know you concern yourself with how others see you, yet you make no steps toward changing how you treat others.  to be told by your superiors that you are not treating support staff properly and to have you return and say that "you were never taught how to treat them" is absolutely inexcusable.  why they couldnt have asked your colleagues before promoting you is beyond me.

you are not accountable for anything you say or do.  it's never your fault for how you treat people or how you talk to anyone.  afterall there is always someone who comes along and covers for you, but i imagine that you are finding it more difficult to find people in your corner, arent you?

i hate that i have spent hours in therapy trying to dissect your brain and ending up with the same conclusion.  i'm still puzzled how you can have a job with authority yet have no accountability or maturity beyond it. 

i just dont understand how things fall into your lap.  on one hand i applaud you for being ambitious, but on the other, i know you've stepped on plenty of toes to get where you are.  i know you kissed ass big time to your boss to get your promotion.  it's funny how you were the only staff member to get along with him and then you got your current job.

i dont get you. 

i cant like you. 

it's that simple.